Thoughts Decoded

Universally hated yet loved by all. The purpose is unknown yet we do it. Whether we are busy or idle, whether we are literate or illiterate, whether we are educated or not or whether we are men or women we all love to do it. GOSSIP is the word we hate to say but love to do. They start “I just hate people gossiping. I don’t like them. I can’t stand them” and then continue getting personal as to what miracle has happen due to somebody’s deeds and “if was in his place I wouldn’t have done it” (There is no realization that he just now finished gossiping).

Well all that is fine but what about the harm that it causes. It ruins somebody’s life, somebody’s relationship and much other destruction. What can be the motive behind it? Why people do it?

Sometimes I feel there are few group of people who have different motive for it. Like some might do it to hurt their enemies (that’s done intentionally) others might do it for their advantage (it’s something like criticize others and you become the hero) others might do it for mere time pass (no intensions of hurting anyone, but someone might get hurt unintentionally) and others might do it unknowingly (these people do not know that they are gossiping or may be don’t want to realize).

Well but the result is the same – it causes happy environment for the one who gossips and might create negative or destructive feeling for the target of the gossip.

The healthy talks are like you appreciate a motive behind a person’s do’s and don’ts (which I would call a discussion and not gossip). Gossip is often called as the sensational and groundless talk about others which only creates a wrong, negative and a biased environment in the group about a person or a group of person.

Though universally it is hated by people but research shows that it is beneficial to all of us. It distresses human mind, boost his happy hormones and keeps him fresh and active.  Gossip is a social weapon that lets us discuss someone when they are not present, may be their attire or hair or personality or personal activities etc.

Gossiping is not confined to female category only. As it was considered long before that it was women’s world to gossip but no more no one has this belief as also men are gossiping (may be some percentage here and there).

What about the media? There are so many TV show based on gossips getting their TRP’s increased. And the newspaper editor need it otherwise what would we read in next day’s Mumbai Mirror or the Bombay Times. But also think how would it feel if you were in Page 3 for your recent Karnama (all gossips about you) and you have no option but just read it like any other person do.

So all you there gossip as much as you want to but just to distress yourself and not to destroy anyone.

Hey you know what…. Don’t tell anyone but even I hate gosipping. Ha ha ha ha ha ha…